A non baby post

[phoenix_arose]

shadesong linked to a blog fugitivus.wordpress.com/2009/06/26/another-post-about-rape-3/, and this bit kinda hit home
"If women are raised being told by parents, teachers, media, peers, and all surrounding social strata that:

• it is not okay to set solid and distinct boundaries and reinforce them immediately and dramatically when crossed (”mean bitch”)
• it is not okay to appear distraught or emotional (”crazy bitch”)
• it is not okay to make personal decisions that the adults or other peers in your life do not agree with, and it is not okay to refuse to explain those decisions to others (”stuck-up bitch”)
• it is not okay to refuse to agree with somebody, over and over and over again (”angry bitch”)
• it is not okay to have (or express) conflicted, fluid, or experimental feelings about yourself, your body, your sexuality, your desires, and your needs (”bitch got daddy issues”)
• it is not okay to use your physical strength (if you have it) to set physical boundaries (”dyke bitch”)
• it is not okay to raise your voice (”shrill bitch”)
• it is not okay to completely and utterly shut down somebody who obviously likes you (”mean dyke/frigid bitch”)

"
I find being called a bitch rather offensive , i mean i might be being bitchy but  i'm really sensitive to the "you are being a bitch" especially coming from guys. and i think this is part of it. Why am i a bitch for not being quiet and pointing out that  you just talked over me or that your in my space and no i don't want to talk to you nor do i have to?

the whole thing was good but this hit home THIS is why i don't like it,  there is nothing wrong with me doing those types of things

Comments

[nightdragon.livejournal.com]

interesting article... reminds me of college... a lot.

i understand what you mean about being called a bitch.. i think, though, that most of these things are when done in extreme, realistically... for instance, being emotional doesn't cause people to say "crazy bitch" but being overemotional every time anyone says anything could.

just thinking. i like to take the opportunities i have to make sure girls know how to be strong and independent.

[perfect-drug.livejournal.com]

strong women are a good thing