What is it with slackers

[phoenix_arose]

so we allowed a additional room mate

 he is paying rent late and not in full

he is not contrubing money to the household for the food he eats  or his own smokes

he has lied to James about why his paychecks are short

he has been calling in sick when he "has a hard time breathing" no he doe snot have  any respatory issues yes he does work inside at a desk all day .......

 it s huge deal when we are spliting everything 4 ways instead of 3 and James is stillooking for work

Comments

[aronal.livejournal.com]

So he's bumming smokes, and then skips work when he has a hard time breathing, what's wrong with this picture?

[perfect-drug.livejournal.com]

you see i have pointed this out to him and all i get is eye rolling .....


too bad i can't just kick him out

Why can't you...

[wymzie.livejournal.com]

If y'all are struggling and he is a drain on your resources and offers nothing to the mutually supportive household? Is he ill or the responsibility of you or James'? Or is he the wife, husband, child of the third housemate? I'm not trying to be facetious, I'm trying to understand what his place is in your home and why he is allowed this behavior.
Just wondering
V

Re: Why can't you...

[perfect-drug.livejournal.com]

he is chosen family of James, like a brother,


And right now since James is btwn jobs and we are trying to pay for a wedding any money is better than no money


And i don't plan on allowing he has one more month then he is out and i'll get a second job


i just feel like i'm acting crazy sometimes but i see from the responses i'm actually not

Re: Why can't you...

[wymzie.livejournal.com]

Oh sweetie...
I can understand how difficult this must be for you. I'm sorry you're in this situation. You are not acting crazy and we are all merely human. Be kind to yourself and do what you feel is best. Does James know how much this disturbs you? It occurs to me that your housemate may not understand why you are feeling this way. Have y'all sat down and had a serious "family" talk? Perhaps he doesn't know or understand your situation. Sometimes it is best to have a cool head and put situations in perspective. Having a household meeting to make sure everyone is on the same page couldn't hurt. I hope you can get a resolution and everything works out for the good of you all.
Hugs
V.
PS You may need to wait until Mercury goes direct before you have any serious communications about this. ;-)

Re: Why can't you...

[perfect-drug.livejournal.com]

i'm kinda waiting on that - i have a personal policy of not doing any serious talks till after retrograde unless absolutely needed.


James feels the same way - he has talked to him and he knows what's going on - but i think this is just a maturity issue

HM#1 -21
HM#2 - 22

Me 25....... i think i'm just tired of irresponsible adults ;)

we will work it out and it will be fine *focuses on fine * this will work out